So I freely admit I have no idea what’s going on.
I got a call from Jeremy’s teacher today to let me know he was coming home early (again). I figured I’d take the time to try and sort out what exactly had been brought up regarding transgender individuals and the washroom. The teacher was more than happy to explain.
Jeremy’s class gets together with another similar class to do field trips and one of the students in the other class is identifying as male. Apparently they sat the class down and explained that this student has the choice of using the men’s washroom but right now he doesn’t feel comfortable using that washroom and would rather use the single stall handicapped washroom instead. She went on to explain that students in our region have the right to use the washroom of the gender they identify with. I thanked her for this information, explaining Jeremy had gotten the information pretty much backwards and assured her I’d explain what she’d said to me.
When I got home I talked to Jeremy about what was said. He doesn’t remember that classroom conversation at all, although he does know who the student is. The conversation he remembers started out as a discussion regarding people going into the wrong washroom; men walking into the women’s room and vice versa. Then the conversation migrated on to a discussion about trans* people. From the sounds of it, the whole conversation started out as a safety talk for vulnerable teens; an “if there’s a strange man standing in the corner of the washroom, it’s okay to leave and go tell a teacher” talk. Only it somehow devolved into a “I wouldn’t want anyone with a penis in the women’s washroom” whether the person identified as male or not. Which doesn’t sound at all like what the teacher was discussing today but Jeremy’s standing by his words.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had a completely different story from Jeremy and his teacher; the whole sex ed fiasco from a couple of months ago comes to mind. I just wish their sides would match more often.