You are not an LGBTQ ally if you can explain gay or lesbian relatives to children with ease but decide it’s too complicated to explain a trans relative.
You are not an LGBTQ ally if the trans relative’s chosen, real name and pronouns are too hard to remember so you go back to their old pronouns and name.
You are not an LGBTQ ally if they’ll always be deadname* to you
You are not an LGBTQ ally if you accept bisexual people but figure they’re really just confused.
You’re not an LGBTQ ally if you assume bisexual people are natural cheaters
You’re not an LGBTQIA ally if you figure the A stands for ally
You’re not an LGBTQIA ally if you complain there’s too many letters. It’s the length of a phone number and people aren’t crying those are too long.
You’re not an LGBTQIA ally if you figure asexual people are straight but confused.
You’re not an LGBTQIA ally if you decide asexuals are simply prudes
Go back to grade school and re-learn that a word can have two meanings if you think asexuals have to bud in order to reproduce.
You are an ally if you listen to your trans relative and follow his, their, or her narrative to explain to younger family members.
You are an ally if you use your trans relative’s name and pronouns as often as possible, apologizing if you forget.
You are an ally if you realize bisexual people aren’t any more confused or promiscuous than the rest of society, they simply happen to be attracted to two or more genders.
You are an ally if you learn the acronym without complaining.
You are an ally if you listen to the LGBTQIA community and learn about their various orientations without judgement
You are an ally if you stand up for the LGBTQIA community and correct any misunderstandings you hear.
If you are an ally, I thank you!
* deadname equals birthname