Positive steps…

makes you happyFor the longest time my life was defined by being Katie and Colin’s Mom. Meals were picked with their palates in mind, activities planned around their interests. My free time was marked out by their bedtime; once the bath, stories, and lullabies were done… then I got to creep downstairs and do some activities of my own. At least before I got too tired to do them.

Then they got a bit older, Kait upgraded her name, and they had more freedom to explore, leaving me with a bit more freedom too. But even with that extra freedom my life revolved around their needs.

I’m going to be moving in a few more months and, for the first time since I was 25 years old, I am going to be on my own in my own empty nest. No one will be counting on me (other than the cats). I will be cooking for one and cleaning for one. And all my free time will be my own.

It’s a hard thing to wrap my brain around after almost a quarter century putting myself blog picturein second place. And it’s made doubly hard with depression and anxiety. But I am determined to do it. I’ve metaphorically dusted off my digital scrapbooking program and am making an album for our Dominican Republic vacation. Plus I’ve been taking time each night to sit in my swing chair and watch YouTube videos. I love music and this relaxes me before bed. And I see friends of mine several times a month to sing karaoke. The microphone is a cheapie that I picked up for twenty dollars but it works well enough for us. And singing with just the three of us gives us the confidence to branch out on songs we aren’t 100% sure of.

And even more changes will happen once I move. Their transit system stinks so I’ll be walking a lot more. Plus there’s going to be a Planet Fitness nearby which I’m determined to join (and attend). I’ve been told that there will be groups held in my new building, which means the potential of making friends with my neighbours. I’ve lived here for five years and I don’t think I’ve even seen some of my neighbours.

I used to write almost every day and regularly for several hours at a time (obviously while the kids were busy or asleep). I’ve got out of practise when it comes to writing and am hoping a quiet apartment with no distractions will help me get back into practice again.

I am looking so forward to letting the real me step outside. I’ll always be Kait and Colin’s Mom but from now on I’m going to be known mainly as Kathleen. And that feels good.

Googling my way through town…

It’s April now and I know no more about my apartment than I did a month ago, which is really anxiety inducing but nothing I can change. They simply don’t have the information. Although if they could stop saying things like, “I doubt it’ll be ready for May” when it’s already April, that would be a help. What I do have is Google Maps, which I used as well when we moved here.

Two months ago my Mom drove me around my new neighbourhood, which gave me a decent idea of the distances involved, although I won’t get any real idea until I’m walking around. For now I’m using Google Map’s satellite view to get a better idea.

It turns out there’s a vet clinic and a pizza place directly across the street from my new building. That is going to be so handy… and yummy. They have three different veggie pizzas and I should be able to get them just to keep the cheese off. Plus I just found a new vegan cheese and it’s so very good. It should be great sliced on top of pizza.

I might or might not have just gone to get Fauxmagerie zengarry double creme vegan cheese and a sleeve of garlic crackers from the kitchen.

There’s a Planet Fitness near the grocery store and a Japanese restaurant that sells tempura vegetables, avocado sushi, and tempura sweet potato sushi. You know, because there has to be a balance in life.

I also found a Thai restaurant in town. It looks like a bit of a hike but, after eating tom yum soup and golden curry, I’m sure the walk (or roll depending on how round my belly is) will be necessary.

And I found the couch I want to buy for my apartment at Structube. The miloh sofabed. It’s really a futon but, shhh, don’t tell that to Structube. I really like the blue and think it’ll look good with my mermaid sequin and blue butterfly pillows.

Now to wash the dishes and slowly wait for the move. Hopefully it’ll be as good, or better, than anticipated!