My name is Kathleen (formerly known as Michelle when I was writing anonymously). I’m 51 years old which I guess is technically middle aged.

I’m an atheist and a vegan and my favourite colour is teal. Well, not really. My favourite colour is iridescent but I’ve been told by umpteen billion people that’s not really a colour so I just say teal now. I’m a demiromantic, asexual who’s primarily interested in women and non-binary people.

I described myself as boring once and was promptly told I’m too colourful and sparkly to say that, which is one of the nicest things anyone’s ever said about me. I tend to wear lots of bright colours, mismatched socks, and my running shoes are glittery. I’m autistic and struggle with major depressive disorder, severe anxiety, ADD, dyscalculia, and agoraphobia. I’ve written three novels, two of which have been self published. Leaving Hope has been published here and Small Dreams has been published here. I stopped writing due to depression but I’m slowly, very slowly (glacially slowly), getting back to writing. I’ve been taking a story telling group through a local organization and writing on here which should help.

Oreo, Lara, Angel, and Blackie after our napI have five fur babies (aka cats). Angel, my oldest, is 16 years old, then comes my 15 year old Blackie (also known as Blackie-Boo and Blackie-Boo-Bunny). Oreo is my senior cat, opposed to the two above geriatric cats, at 14 years old and then come my 5 year old twins Lara and Smudge. They keep me busy and provide me with so much love and enjoyment. Angel uses my hand as a pillow at night. Blackie-Boo snuggles tightly against me and purrs. Oreo closes his eyes and lets his tongue flop out when he’s pet. Lara is a social butterfly who runs to the door to greet everyone. And Smudgie drapes herself across my chest for a belly rub then drools with happiness. They’re all so sweet in their own ways.

My oldest human child, as in one I actually gave birth to opposed to adopting from a shelter, is Kait (previously known as Emma). Kait’s twenty-six years old and has an assortment of kitties and kidlets of her own.

My youngest child (also human) is Colin (formerly Julie/Jeremy). Colin is twenty-four years old. He’s been through a lot of changes on here. When I started this blog he identified as bisexual then bigender, agender, and finally gender fluid. Then he announced he was female and changed his name to Emma, which was the other name chosen during my pregnancy. He stayed Emma for a year but eventually switched back to appearing male and using he and him because of fertility reasons. I’m hoping someday he’ll feel comfortable enough to be publicly Emma again. He doesn’t speak about being female often these days and is deeply invested in men’s rights but does mention it from time to time.

Colin has been diagnosed with high functioning autism. He also struggles with anxiety, ADHD, and depression.

Colin smiling filteredColin is obsessed with electronics, especially computers and sound systems, and loves rebuilding them. He’s fascinated with anime and Reddit’s MRAs and Feminist boards. His goal is to someday work with computers, maybe as a programmer… hopefully something with robotics. Colin enjoys playing Portal, Garry’s Mod, and hanging out with Dogmeat in Fallout3. His favourite colour is purple (with pink a close second) and he has a burning need to acquire every purple thing he sees, whether he needs it or not. Colin loves to garden and is determined to grow tomatoes this year even though he hates them. One of his amaryllis stalks had five blooms this year. Ask him. He has pictures. He currently lives in his own apartment in a group home for autistic adults out in the middle of nowhere in a house with a pool, forest, two ponds and, most importantly for him, unlimited internet.

His move leaves me with an empty nest (aside from my five cats) I’d say I miss him but he video calls at least twice a day and messages several times in between LOL.

All three of us are atheists, Kait’s vegetarian and I’m vegan.

The easiest way to reach me is by sending me a message via Facebook. The next best way is to email me at secretmom@email.com. I also have a seldom used Twitter account, a regularly used Instagram account, and my above mentioned often used Facebook page. I don’t have any other accounts (other than my personal Facebook account which is under my own name including last names) so if you see another, please let me know.

I got added to a blogroll which requests being shared if added. I don’t actually have a blogroll, something I should add someday, but can share it here. Feel free to go wander through Transiness.

The graphics on my banner were all made by Studio Flergs. Run to her page… she’s got amazing stuff! Everything in the banner is from her Choose to Shine collection, which no longer seems to be available but she still has amazing stuff.

Happy reading 🙂

my little curls

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    • Well it’s Jeremy who identifies as “fabulous”, from his aqua hair right down to his red painted toenails. He’s got about 25 cents to his name and stinks at doing dishes. You two will just have to work something out 🙂

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  2. It is nice to read about others who are autistic (not aspie) and gender divergent, given how often have been told the two are mutually exclusive. Or at least, formally diagnosed GID and autism, which I suppose is not exactly the same thing but close. Thank you for writing.

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  6. Hi, I really like your blog. You come across as incredibly honest and as though you don’t have anything to prove, to me at least that is a refreshing change 🙂

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