I’d say it started yesterday but it really started just over a month ago when my ex-husband had his birthday. Ever since we separated he’s insisted he wants no birthday celebration at all. No calls… no cards… no presents. He doesn’t want to remember he’s ageing, leave him alone. Then, after the date, he’s mad because no one remembered his birthday. General cognition and cause and effect are not his strong suits.
This time he decided to get back at Emma for not calling. Never mind Emma never calls anyone. Never mind she’s having problems with her phone. Never mind she doesn’t keep track of dates. He was mad and he was retaliating. So he called Kait and told her he was going to deliberately misgender “Colin” in a birthday Facebook wish to get back at her. A) because that’s what loving and kind Fathers do and B) because there was no way posting his ignorance on Facebook could blow back at him…

Emma knew just what to say
The first thing that confused James was absolutely no one wanted to here his side on why he’s misgendering his own child. So he explained anyway…
Then my friend Robin told him to step on a Lego and he literally took that to be a death threat…
And my friend ran with the Lego death threat. Because we all know how deadly a block of lego is when you step on it…
It’s funny in some ways but this is a grown man, Emma’s father, on her Facebook page the night before her birthday. And here is when he really started showing his true colours. First by using gay as an insult, then his above comment about not supporting “lgbt crap”, and finally by deciding Robin must be trans and referring to her as “it” and that “trans freak”. Along with this…
Kait finally had enough of him, after being on the brink for months, and blocked him…

… and her post whooshed right over his head
Then it just got plain pathetic…
My ex and I talked a lot about being parents, when we were young and engaged, and how we wanted to raise our kids. He wanted to be a hands on Dad, something he hadn’t much experience with (as much as he loved his father). It’s like he set out to do the exact opposite.
I almost never mention my ex-husband on the blog and this thread is exactly why. He’s a living train wreck of a man, a person who lives solely to tear down other people.
Today is Emma’s birthday. She played Undertale before school while I watched then we went out for dinner with her Nana (mmm… potato curry), and now she’s heading out to Value Village to look for computer parts and/or a phone… as happy as can be. Then she’s having birthday pudding, since she decided it was too hot for cake. There was no mention of her Dad, he’s a non-existent part of her life and, sadly, that’s how it should be with him.

Emma with her new purse and sucker
Wow I wish we had WOW button!! 😳 he sounds really mean, thanks for standing up for your child!!!!
Thank you. He’s been hard to parent around but I’m glad I have both my kids, they’re amazing people and well worth supporting.
As a parent of a transgender child I am speechless. Happy Birthday Emma! I am so glad you have a great mom and sister to help you through the hard times.
P.S. I love the purse!!! 💗
Thank you
I’m so glad she had a wonderful birthday, despite her own father insisting on misgendering her.
Thank you
Happy Birthday, Emma!
You’re a fantastic young woman, and deserve the very best that life has to offer.
Thank you
What a narcissistic victim! I’m so sorry your family has to deal with him. Maybe if the Lego thing comes to fruition, you could make an ironic tombstone out of em? Keep MamaBearing for your cubs. I’m glad they both seem to cognitively understand they deserve better – both from a father and grammar/spelling.
Thanks. If we were exchanging Christmas presents, his would be a sole piece of Lego this year.
OMG. I couldn’t believe this as I was reading. It just got worse and worse. I’m so sorry you all had to deal with that and that Emmas bday got off to a sour start. I hope she has a great day today and that her birthday is filled with joy and tenderness.
Thanks
Happy Birthday Emma. I’m glad you could celebrate with people who love you. And I’m envious of the amazing purse.:)
Thanks
I just can’t even find words to describe such behavior – it’s just so appalling that an adult man could even write such juvenile bullying words AND to his own daughters smh he is def mentally disordered
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